You Will Be Fine

It has been very disheartening to read the news regarding the string of queer teenage suicides. I was even more stunned the next couple of days and thoroughly disgusted to read the news about 13 guys from Bronx who brutally tortured three guys just because they are beautifully diffrent. My girlfriend and I condemned those beastly actions strongly and sternly. There is no word to describe our feeling but it broke our hearts, deeply. But whether we like it or not, the avalanche of unfortunate news have brought the anti-gay hysteria in the worldwide spotlight. Much to our dismay, the spotlight has also been mounted with political agenda for personal gain as if the gays are political pions to win votes only to be discared later on when the gain has been made. It's a classic story but the movement towards a better cast of light has already started.

To understand my point, you have to know where I'm coming from. I come from a country where homosexual is regarded as taboo and still is considered a "disease" that can be cured. The close-minded people of country still pretty much believe that the children rather died than to be a homosexual. I love my mom dearly and so does she. But my mom, at one point, during my teenage years, has suggested to give me a testosterone theraphy because I appeared to effeminate in her liking. I went through junior high with not much ease either. I was fat, short, effeminate and a nerd. A perfect target to be bullied. It was not as extreme as what the high-profile suicide victims went through but it was still an emotionally draining experience. I was brought up in a Christian school and from such a young age, I have been incepted with dogma that Homosexual is a huge sin. My teenage years were full of sleepless nights over the fear that I would be someday condemned in hell and to cause embarassment for disgracing my family just simply because of who I am. However, suicide was never my option because I believe I will be big someday. And so every one of you will. You have got to believe in yourself.

Years after that, here I am aiming high for my career. I am still not completely out but people who have just known me recently can immediately notice that I am gay. and those who have known me before have seen how much have I changed to be more comfortable with myself. The world is changing. And the young generation has become more acceptable to differences. Throughout my years, I have met wonderful straight people including my girlfriend who have loved me unconditionally and have accepted the way I am.

I know your pain. We all know your pain. We have been through that. Project happy thoughts and focus on the artful talents you have been neglected. Those people who said being gay is miserable clearly have never read a dictionary. Check your dictionary and see what gay really means - fun and frivolous.

Being gay is your best excuse not to be boring.

Believe me, It gets better. Hugs.

Blogger find

As I was aimlessly searching through the world wide web, I pleasantly stumbled upon this blogger by the name of little fashionisto.

And I must say I am quite fond of his dress aesthetic. People seem to be so focused on the bloggers who are the 'it' thing but this young man truly has style and a dress sense of his own which doesn't particularly follow any trends.

So for this edition of 'Fashion bloggers', myself and my other half shall give you our individual three picks.

Her picks





His picks





Check out more from his blog here

Oh Anna, how I love you so...

Anna Dello Russo all prepped and ready for the masquerade ball which celebrated Vogue Paris' 90th Anniversary.

Who else but her could have thought of such a get-up?

My counterpart on the other hand thinks the white hair ages her.

I just think it's genius.

That's all.

We're Back!

After a long hiatus, I am glad to say we are back bringing you all

The internet has been abuzz with countless inspiration, fashion shows, news and gossip which I've been itching to share.

Regardless of whether you've been in the know or living under a rock we shall be bringing back updated posts as often as we can.

The weeks in news so far...

1. Why this appeared in Cosmo is beyond me. Not suited for the magazine. But then again I don't know what German Cosmo spreds are like so...German Cosmo’s Controversial S&M Spread (NSFW).

Click for more images here Stylite

2. The Stars pay tribute to Alexander McQueen at a memorial service at London's St Paul's Church. In dramatic fashion, celebrities like Kate Moss, Daphne Guinness and Naomi Campbell paid tribute to the legend and fashion icon who passed away earlier this year.


Amongst them was also Bjork who gave a moving performance at the service.


Read more here

3. Marc Jacobs exquisitely printed Spring 2011 collection. I'm all for bold African prints. See more here
image taken from the sartorialist


4. This awesome!!! motion-spread in Vogue Homme Japan. I think I just really like the fact that it moves.


Check out the full spread here.

5. Tommy Ton's Street Style: 9 Men Who Bring It


Read, read, read!

Oh Anna. You truly make my heart melt!

No words.

Just absolute brilliance.

This woman truly is in a league of her own.



Image courtesy of JakandJilblog. And on that note...Congratulations to Tommy Tom's 1000th post! Thank you for bringing us such inspiring photos day after day!!

Just out the oven

Is Gay the New Feminism?

"I hear the decadence is calling," said Samantha Jones, one of the leading characters from Sex and The City 2. Played by Kim Catrall, she is the sexual predator and one of many faces of the metropolitan women portrayed in this film.

And she was right. The decadence was indeed calling rather loudly. The goal of Sex and The City 2 was never to deliver beauty. or entertainment. The goal was change. The film is another ambitious vessel of feminism and gay right movement. After all, the audience of this film draws largely from women and gays. And quite obvious, that Sex and the City 2 harbours a very passionate, almost vengeful, team of feminist writers.

Some might argue, that the film is misogynist, bigoted, biased, racially insensitive and borderline aggressive, but Sex and the City 2 is a poignant attack from the feminist, albeit very weak, because of the lack of diversity from the film's target market. It's a transformative declaration of the women's movement, an announcement to the world: I am in control of my own flesh and mind. And I reflect that from the way I behave and dress.

Middle eastern women in the Sex and The City 2 depiction was a stereotypical portrayal. The film, somewhat, forces its' thought vehemently that it offers not salvation, but grievance. Yet the very first few women who lay their hands on the runway are the wealthy middle eastern women. They understand the core value of avant garde fashion is actually an art - more so of a forbidden fruit. The clothes are not to be worn, but to be displayed in all their mighty glory behind glass boxes. So there are some truths to that, although the discussion is a very delicate subject.

Fashion has always been a vehicle to present the fight of feminism to the world. It used to be vulnerable instrument of suppression, and now has become as a billboard sign, "Look at me. I am a woman and I am very capable." That's how women invented the blue power suit in 70's to counter the dominance of men in the board room and unfortunately, fashion changes as rapidly as it comes. The power of that blue suit becomes impotence. And then come, Madonna, Grace Jones, Christina Aguilera, and now Lady Gaga.

On the other hands, the gays are the new feminists. We have been trying to fight for equality for more than two decades, and we have not yet gotten any further. There are still countries who consider gays as a human treachery punishable by death, like to my dismay, the recent case in Malawi. And we are sharing the same vehicle from the women - fashion. So if women have not yet fully succeeded although it can still be considered a milestone of power, can I hear the loud cheering from the gays across the world very soon?