If I had your style

I've always wanted to try out the androgynous look. Its look seems to call for short hair but I'm thinking long hair might not be such a bad thing. But I could go with either.





I adore this look! She pulls it off exceptionally well and she's absolutely gorgeous!








Seeing as I have wanted to cut my hair for some time now...I might just do it.





Fashion Designer Alessandra Colombo is known to have an amazing sense of style. I like her blend of masculine and feminine elements in her clothing.







I'm especially fond of images 1,2,4, 5 and 6


images courtesy of thesartorialist, styleclicker.net

I see you in all your nakedness...

image courtesy of mariux.tumblr.com

You have the right to accesorize!

images courtesy of thesartorialist, yvanrodic, jakandjil, stockholmstreetstyle

Standard Creepiness Rule

I have a gay friend whom i have known for more or less two years. Whenever I was out at a club, he was always sitting there in the corner. Whenever I asked him why he wasn't doing the same thing I did in the club, he always responded saying, "no, I have a boyfriend." But i always brushed it off and responded with another question, because I had never seen his boyfriend.

Three weeks ago, I bumped into him again, this time at a bar. I didn't really pay any attention to his surroundings whatsoever, because i found no one really interesting. So when he sprang up and introduced me to his so-called boyfriend of 3 years, I was utterly shocked.

His boyfriend of three years is not only triple his age, but he is, I'm sorry to say, pudgy, wrinkly, and short. I didn't dare at all doubt an ounce of my friend's genuine love for him, but what begged me the biggest question that night - What was he thinking when he decided to like him? or, to be much clearer, what do most people in his position think when they decide to date, say, a cougar?

It's pretty much a common occurrence in the gay world, especially in the place I come from, to see a beer-bloated geriatric, canoodling with a much younger jailbait who has barely just passed his eighteenth birthday. It's a phenomenon in most south east Asian countries, and i think it is somewhat a belief in the western countries - When you are no longer able to attract someone, go to Asia. I think i have scored a new slogan to be advertised to those seniors.

I personally follow a guideline, although not strictly, called the "half-plus-seven" relationship rule or rather well known as the, "standard creepiness rule". To know how you can calculate your "standard creepiness" age, check here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Half-age-plus-seven-relationship-rule.svg

But hey, who am I to deny the love from one individual to the nextr, when my love life is being denied by the bigoted conservative straights whose minds are apparently still stuck in the world of the stone age?

All is fair in love. not war.

Bros before hoes...

Pederasty.

A word which I only found out about recently and yet knew its connotation.

Being a person who is ever inquisitive, my endless thirst for knowledge drove me to find out all I could about this word.

Now for those of you who don't know what Pederasty is, I shall tell you.

Pederasty or paederasty is a (usually erotic) relationship between an older man and an adolescent boy outside his immediate family. The word pederasty derives from Greek (paiderastia) "love of children" or "love of boys",a compound derived from (pais) "child, boy" and (erastēs) "lover".

When I first learnt about this, my mind quickly conjured up the word pedophilia. But according to ancient history, this trend has been going on for centuries. In ancient history it was even considered acceptable.

The main characteristic of homosexual pederasty is the age difference (either of generation or age-group) between the partners. In the study of native cultures (according to Geoffrey Gorer, English anthropologist and author), pederasty appears typically as a passing stage in which the adolescent is the beloved of an older male, who may act as a mentor. He remains as such until he reaches a certain developmental threshold, after which he in turn takes on an adolescent beloved of his own.

Now, there are two arguments to this.

One: that the boys were looking up to these older men as mentors, and in time grew to be attracted to them hence the sexual relations

Two: the boys were looking up to these older men as mentors, which later resulted in these said older men taking advantage of the situation and abusing it.

And with further research I discovered that in some societies today, pederasty is still acceptable. Which societies you ask? I shall leave that for you to discover.

I'm not for sexual abuse or molestation of any kind. It saddens and repulses me that children are taken advantage of everyday. And reading on how far back this has been happening and was once considered socially acceptable is even worse.

It's always been fascinating and heartbreaking what new things one can learn everyday.

Read more about it here



Batman and Robin






Because we've all thought it at one point in time...



image courtesy of terryrichardson.com

Fashion Bloggerdome

Image courtesy of Bryanboy.com

The image of Bryanboy and Tavi Gevinson sitting front row shoulder-t0-shoulder with international fashion editors and reporters were still fresh decorating the headlines in the fashion segment across the globe. It was such a rare occasion. Fashion is known for being niche and exclusive, and yet to invite an online persona without a credential fashion background was the "it" thing this season.

Bryanboy recently tweeted about how he was perpetuated to receive hordes of emails saying that they want to be like him or want to be next "him". I was once again left baffled. The fashion bloggerdome has been fully occupied by a series of people whose blog persona is larger-than-life. And fashion moves rapidly as fast as it changes. Soon, these bloggers will move on doing something deeper like what Bryanboy secretly discussed with the Vogue, but the stardom to fashion through blogging was permanently sealed with their butts on the front-row seats. It's passe now.

Bryanboy took more than 7 years to cradle his way into the front-row, but was act of blogging considered prominent 7 years ago? No one thinks so.It's about time that those hopefuls learn to make their own ways.

Besides, isn't fashion all about leading and less about following?

A Milestone in History

Oh-kay, I know I am such a late snoozefest and should have blogged about this historic scene days ago when the world was abuzz with orgasm of gaydom. Yeah, I am talking about the first gay kiss scene on ABC's soon-to-be-deceased hit series, Ugly Betty. Here is the preview for the late-bloomers like me, oh by the way, it's obvious major spoiler alert:

I was bowled over with rainbows and butterflies when I first encountered the scene. Not just because it was light and sweet, but also because it was the first gay scene on a prime time television history. Unlike the infamous scene of Luke and Noah from the daytime soap opera "As The World Turns", this one was, somewhat, innocent. The actors, Mark Indelicato and Ryan McGinnis, who played Justin and Austin respectively, are both still in their teenage years.

I found it such an imposition sometimes to watch most gay-themed films, because they are basically can be categorised into two segmentations; either it is dead-pan serious macabre of death or cheesy cheap-ass budget which purpose is solely to fuel the gay-stereotype of a promiscuous hedonistic society.

Yet, personally, my favourite moment in this episode, is the one where Betty talks with Hilda towards the end of the show. That, glitters, hit a home run to me.

B: Everytime I feel like moving forward, someone reminds me that, I am still just a dork with glasses and braces.

H:But those braces coming off any day now...

B:But what if nothing changes? Then I will have nothing to blame.

H:Oh, Honey, You've got to stop. Somehow, You've got it in your head, that this is your story. You've got to let that go. It's time to come out with a whole new story for yourself. You are who you are. The sooner you are OK with that, the sooner that you see what I see, the happier you gonna be. I swear to God.

Oh-kay, done with the moment of weakness. Set aside those tissue boxes, it's time for some Amanda.

There's a Difference Between Judging the Book by Its' Cover and Having a Type

Image courtesy of millionface.com

There is one thing in common that me and my girlfriend share between us - it's our taste to men. Well, at least, that's what I think we are, because we usually gush for the same guy.

However, I never used to think, or label ourselves as "potato queens". For those of you who are inconspicuous, Potato Queens is the term, sometimes used pejoratively, inside the gay parlour for Asians who like to exclusively date Caucasians. ( Believe me, I learnt this from the Tyra Banks's Show). Yet my friends seem to think otherwise, solely because my sexcapades footprint speaks for itself.

Well, the reason why I deny this is because I still find some of the Asians, albeit very rarely, arousing. I have a track record to prove so, yet the comparison is such a pale minority. I supposed if I have to defend myself about my adventure, is not the physical beauty that attracts me most. By all mean, I am not a "size queen".

I think the reason lies in my fascination towards the English language. I really find a person with an articulate command of the language incredibly arousing. There's a probability that when it eventually blossoms into something more meaningful, there's always the attraction of communication. That we both understand, jokes and serious conversations, in a very amicably manner.

I know it's such a generalization. The second reason is the sense of independence. It's very rare to see Asians who lead, and take initiative and being independent in their 20s. It's part of the faulty education of always following and never leading. Heck, some of us even stay with our parents till we're in our 30s. In their college years, most Caucasians, not counting the Italians "Bamboccione", are being kicked out from their cribs by their parents.

The counter-part of "Potato Queen" is a "Rice Queen", It's the term for Caucasians who mostly date Asians. I don't really harbour any malice towards them, but usually i always try to avoid them. I live in country where the number of Asians obviously outnumber the Caucasians. This is where they have the bargain point. I don't think i have the values that they are typically looking for to begin with anyway.

I know there's a term for Asians who love Asians, it's called, "Sticky Rice", but I am not really aware of the term for Caucasians who date only Caucasians.

"Mashed Potato" is that chu?

Musically yours

Before Lady Gaga, there was Roisin Murphy. A singer-songwriter and record producer
Roisin Murphy is truly a force to be reckoned with. From her fashion sense which can be way over the top (which defines her perfectly) to her music which is such a blend of so many different musical elements.






Here she is featuring on the new Crookers album 'Tons of Friends'.




images taken from streetpepper, google images, redcarpet-fashionawards.com,roisinmurphy.blogspot.com

Are you a leader or a follower?

There was a point over the past 2 years or so, when I have noticed that the trend was to dress like a hobo (well one with the ability to own the latest Fendi
Tulle-embellished suede sandals), but for those who couldn't afford a pair stuck to Doc Martens.

It seemed like everyone jumped on the 90's grunge band wagon.And lord did they! The epitome of grunge and its movement, trend-setter and musical genius Kurt Cobain was the pioneer of this trend. He wasn't trying, just being himself, and he understood that style and ones individuality did not mean dressing how people should.



I applaud each and every individual for expressing themselves in a way they feel comfortable but when does a trend become too much? The shredded t-shirt was a favorite of mine. I tried, like many bloggers around the world, to replicate that idea. It however failed miserably and resulted in a t-shirt which once put in the washing machine came out even worse than intended.

Trends come and go, we all know that. Trendsetters are those who wear fashion and own it. Then comes the followers. Human beings as a race have always wanted to feel like they belong. Hell, I was one of the many teens who donned low rise jeans and tank tops ever since i saw Britney Spears don the flesh baring attire!

But when I see tens of thousands of people trying to attempt at being 'in trend' and not owning it, i ask myself, 'do we really know what individuality is?'

Wear it. Own it. Make it your own. Decide that you're not going to be put into that box and referred to as a follower. Cause no one wants to be a sheep. I know I don't.

Happy dressing!

image taken from covercandy.co.uk

Sexual Restraint...blah!

“I lack sexual restraint. Philosophically, I don’t see the point in it. I’ve never viewed sex as a precious act to be cordoned off from experience. I prefer to fuck on the first date. I make sex a priority because men feel more open and less ‘on’ with me after sex - I can get to know them better, and I’m sure I’m more open with them as well. And since sexual chemistry is important to me, it’s something I’d like to know right away. Delayed sex tends to be glorified sex, and while there can be glory in sex, I find that in the chemistry and connection between two people, not in the act itself.”


- debauchette, from: Sexual Restraint from a Woman who Lacks it (F/lthyGorgeousTh/ngs)

Head over to Filthy Gorgeous Fix for more

Guard Dog on Duty

Image courtesy of Dodgedesigns.com

I don't have the problem with the term, although some people find it derogatory, but my girl friend is not my "fag hag". To me, fag hags are women whose social lives revolve around the gays. With my girlfriend and me, it's totally the opposite. She introduces me to the world where i don't belong to but i am very curious to see. My girlfriend will most often than not, bring me to the wonder of her world and in which, I will intently gaze upon, or observe.

When the smoke and liquor façades fade, you are left alone between her and yourself. Or rather, the morning after, if she gets lucky. We often talk, and we review the guys that have passed us by during the previous night. Whether he is a one-hit wonder or someone who is worth keeping for.

By all means, gays are not the expert when it comes to men, we bond with girls mostly not because we both like fashion, but rather over the tragic fate of the victims from a serial one night stand and the concern about ageing. But gays, basically are men, by default are a nympho. So we, at a certain level, have hone our skills to detect sincerity although most of the time, our judgement is clouded by physical beauty. Yet, we always put the best interest of our girlfriends at heart.

This is why a certain straight finds the gays an imposition to scoring a chic. So, this is a tips if you want to score the gay's girlfriends: be comfortable and friendly with both of them, and I'm sure, the guard dog won't bite and they well let you in to the cave of wonders full of harems.

However, most often than not, we are regarded as the excess baggage, and worse, this thought that has been hovering over, usually from the uglier straights. And i really need to emphasize this strongly.

No, we, gays, do not want to fuck every single guy that passed through us.

Bitch, please. If you are ugly in the straight network, you are ugly in the gay world too.